She has given up the game

Don't mean to put a damper on the "feel good's", but as a Dad I am facing the reality of my dd giving up the game as a HS jr.
It's been a really bitter pill to swallow. I have coached her & many others since t-ball, and was always a league organizer, field worker, etc.......whatever was needed to make it go.
Since she gave me the word, I have experienced several emotions, mostly disappointment and yes, anger. My brother experienced the same with his son several yr's ago and he says that relief will come in at some point; it just takes time.

She says that it just isn't "fun" like it was before all those years; she mentions there's too much stress now compared to back then. Somewhere along the line, I think she just lost the passion.
Good luck to all this season.

Any others that want to share similar experiences are welcomed. Help me ease my "feel bad's".

 

I feel your pain.....

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my oldest DD had several DII offers to play collegiately but chose to focus on an "academic" ride to NC STATE. youngest one decided to play at DII for 3 years and in her last year of eligiblity.....chose to play TENNIS.

 

Is softball not a means to an end rather than an end unto itself? CF I think you should applaud your daughter for her choice. If softball helps you go to college well and good. I think too many friends and neighbors out there cannot see the forest for the trees. A softball scholarship should not be the goal (hope this helps some East)... attending the best school your daughter can gain admittance to and you can reasonably afford should be the goal. Ray Chandler once said to me not to let softball choose my daughter's college... greatest truth I have ever heard come out of this veil of tears!

 

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applauds Plus......

indeed we did bothsportsdad. now she will be taking the National Certication this year and is debating whether to attend law school or get her Masters to one day be a college professor.

 

I don't even know her and I am proud!!!!! OUTSTANDING!!!!!!!

 

not college softball

for my dd, college softball was never in her future (she & I both know that), but she was of a talent level to be a solid 2-yr starter on a strong HS varsity team. That's what I had "envisioned for her" and hoped to see her with the passion to do that.
In case you are wondering, I never pushed her excessively to play; wanted it to be her choice for a fun but competitive accomplishment. She did not do TB, but was invited several times. I look back now and about 2 summers ago, I can recall seeing the competitive passion start to fade gradually. Before that she was sort of tomboy-ish, but then started to notice her more girly and feminine. So I guess it's Mother Nature at work as well.

she still plays HS tennis and likes it a lot. on that, she's a team leader and made all-conf. Not quite sure I can grasp a passion for watching her play tennis. My bad, I suppose. Just being honest on this whole subject.

 

It's kind of sad that the fun has been taken away from the game. We as coaches and parents have done that. Sit back and think about that.

Academics should have always been number one priority for all. What kind of money are you going to make playing professional softball?