She has given up the game

nah, its just a Decision(not an impression) they make and definitely Not discouraged. Life choices! Smile and like POP.....take her out to dinner and Enjoy!

 

Enjoy

Kids change....their '"passions" change....support them. I guess the best advice I can think of is for you to be the BEST DAMN TENNIS DAD in the WORLD. Because remember...one day hopefully you will walk her down the isle and give away....she will be gone. You'll then have to rely on those wonderful memories of her playing ball....playing tennis....whatever....And she too can look back and say my daddy was always there supporting me no matter if I played softball....tennis....or jacks!!!

 

thanks but

Angeleyes , thanks and I don't disagree with your sound advise. but I cannot just toss my disappointed feelings away as if they did not exist. Wish I could but it's not easy so far. She asked me how I felt about it, and I was honest with her; told her I was disappointed.
I just think it will take time, and I'll need to find something else. Also I hope she doesn't regret her decision in a year or two.
I actually want to sit back and see if she'll really have a passion for tennis or whatever, really go after something with abandon, come out of that shell......I call it "stepping up to the plate", but she probably doesn't appreciate the softball reference.

 

have you talked with her about all that you are feeling?

not in a "make her feel guilty" way, but to let her know that it's difficult for you? i'll bet she struggled for a while before telling you.

 

yep.......she did but the next stage in her life has just began and its worthy and necessary!!!

 

actually

actually she did not come to me about it, even though inside I think she had decided not to play, she didn't want to break the bad news to me. I had to ask her, even though I could sense that the answer was going to be no and it was.

she just lost the passion for the game and nothing I said revived it. I actually made a conscious effort to let her know that it was her decision as it should be, even though I was really hoping her mind would change. It didn't and it hurts. so it goes...............just don't feel right. But I'll get over it. Bet in a couple years I'll look back and wonder what all the worry was about.

 

a friend of mine went through this very thing with his 10-year-old daughter, except it was basketball. He told her to get back out on the court or he'd throw her out of the house. She got back in line quick and has gotten pretty good at pretending to enjoy herself.

 

What is a "dd"?

 

Darling Daughter.

 

Thanks, Dawgfan. I've got one (DD) and I didn't even know it!