Another interesting question...

Here is my question and please no one take this the wrong way.

Here is a situation...... Coach.... you have a above average to great player that wants to join your team and you would love to have them but the parents are not the greatest (they rant and fuss & cuss and are just plain nasty; could have been me a couple of years ago.) Whould you take this girl no matter how the parents act?

Parents.... how would you feel about this family joining the team?

 

I would not take that girl unless the parents agreed with certain rules. Parents can absolutely hurt their children and I believe every parent should ask themselves are they limiting their child's options because of the way they act.

 

Well now, that is an interesting question!

Well I guess you must weigh out how much you really want that player! First off, do you know for a fact that the parents are BAD or are you taking someone else's word for it? Never judge someone on someone else's opinion! Everyone that meets is not going to hit it off! We don't all like everyone we meet! But if you know from your own experience that the parents are BAD, then you have a choice to make! You can either confront the parents as chachacha suggested, or you can pass on the player! This is not always an easy decision! You don't want to punish the player for her parents behavior but they do come as a package!
Now then it also depends what age level we are talking about. Because in the upper age levels the kids can drive and the parents aren't involved as much, anymore, games mainly.
As a coach, I always went with the "up front, in your face, with the issues" approach! If there is no carpet, nothing can be swept under it! Put it on the table and deal with it! Sometimes parents don't mean to be a nightmare, they just want to do right by their DD! Sometimes the parents just want to feel as though they are being heard.
I personally can not stand a coach who cuts off all communication with the parents, I think you are just asking for trouble by doing that. Have rules about communication between coach and parents, but communicate! A coach with poor communication skills is a NIGHTMARE for the players and the parents! It really is OK for the coach and the parent, to decide to Agree to Disagree! At least everyone has had their voice heard!
In other words if a lot less going behind the backs of others was going on, and a lot more just good old fashion sitting down and discussing it was going on, I think a lot more would get accomplished!
And I am posting this to the parents as much as the coaches! And to the players! Communication is what put us, a rung up on the evolution ladder!
Peace, Love and Happiness

 

agree...

No for travel ball...you spend too much down time on a tourney weekend with parents not to have them at least be cordial....not going to anybody... It drags the others down. We pick parents before we pick kids nowadays, pretty sad fact....but everyone pays the same money in TB

School ball you have to put the most talented on the field and deal with it. If they break team rules or miss practice, cuss, etc, then the AD is involved and they can be booted....

 

MOST TALENTED ON FIELD !!!

HMMMMMMMMMMMM---- SOUNDS LIKE A NEW TOPIC----YOU MEAN YOU DON'T PLAY THE POLITIC GAME ------HELLO !!!!---------DE-JA-VU !!!

 

Absolutely no way.....it is not worth it to the player or her teammates.

 

GoodBye!

Cut the parents....and hope for the best for the kid! Bad parents ruin it for everybody....including their kid.