agresive coaches......

on agressive coaches.....talk about timing! I'd love to hear some feedback from a couple of the college level coaches. What are the correct steps to be taken when the athlete is attempting to cope with the mental frustration of verbal abuse? And, at what point is the line crossed from agressive coaching to this? In most cases it would appear that the coach would have the "upper hand" and could easily blame almost anything on that particular player. And, if other players were to "side" with the one....wouldn't they be subject to unfair treatment as well, if no action were taken?

 

Here's The Problem --------

Most AD's / Booster Club Presidents,etc... will stand behind their coaches even if they know they are in the wrong. It's hard to beat the system...POLITICS governs everything we attempt to do in this life. If a coach is successful as I've already mentioned in the other thread it's almost impossible to win in this situation..you are told that he didn't mean it that way or you are too sensitive and you need to CHILL !!! I've have found out that if you try to buck this system it's like hitting your head against a brick wall !! A successful coach has the upper hand........goes back to the DOLLARS!!!


GOOD LUCK GURU

 

Can you be more specific in defining verbal abuse? Examples? and are we talking college or HS?

 

Abuse @ the college level

If this is occurring in a university program be reminded that these girls are STUDENT-athletes. Most university's (all in the UNC system) have university officials whose job it is to make sure that students are not mistreated in any setting. I can assure you that with proper documentation an abusive coach, just like an abusive prof, will not be around long. University's cannot afford the potential litigation or negative publicity that can occur. Even Chapel Hill (the women's soccer coach) eventually settled by writing a large check. If this is occurring at a small private institution then it may be more difficult. Some of these institutions may not exercise appropriate oversight. The only answer here may be to find another place to play and study.

 

Defining "abusive" is hard to do. I have seen girls that cannot handle a coach raising their voice at them or being demanding of them. I have seen parents who couldn't handle it either. I got news for you...when these girls get to college they will be pushed, talked loudly to, and sometimes a cuss word may come out of the coaches mouth. Now, I have seen a few coaches that do not push their kids and they usually end up in the middle of the pack or at the bottom...just my opinion.

 

Agree--- But Be Careful !!!

Do you think Bobby Knight was in control of his temperment ?? The kids that played for him had no chose, but to take the abuse.Talk to them after they graduate and see how they really feel about him..I agree sometimes kids need to look in the eyes of the coach to get their focus, but hollering and throwing chairs...Don't Think So !!!


Guru

 

The only way Guru...

Is to beat them at the game, get it on film! Solid proof of the behavior in action! Then the player doesn't need any other player to defend them, step up for them or side with them! A person can not deny what is on film!

But I soooooo do agree with you on this post! The only people who mightg dispute this post are the one's on the inside of the polictical circle, who aren't being affected!

 

Girls

Just my experience but girls do not seem to react well to yellers and screamers and as some one said cussers! Most react better to being told point blank what they did, what they should have done, and how we are going to fix it! Simple but works a great deal of time for me.

 

I couldn't agree more, but there are all types of successful coaches out there. They all have their own style. If we are speaking of college coaches here, I would strongly suggest you choose one that better fits your needs. That is simple to find out what style they use. Some players prefer a quiet, pat on the back coach while others prefer the in your face, get after it one. If you don't like the style the coach uses, don't go there.

I believe this is a very important fact that is often overlooked during the recruiting process. Families get excited when a particular school is showing interest in them. Then the college recruiter is smiling and saying all the right things. The player attends that school and is shocked when the coaches are not using the same tone or attitude when they were being recruited....ooops!