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Discussion in 'Softball Forum' started by LDFRDGUY, Mar 31, 2008.

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  1. Mar 31, 2008 at 10:01 AM #1
    LDFRDGUY

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    Do you think if a parent has a dd playing on a hs team that he or she needs to coach ? I mean be in the dugout during games ?
     
  2. Mar 31, 2008 at 10:08 AM #2
    LDFRDGUY

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    IMO

    If your dd plays on a school team I think it's ok to help in practice beacause you may be a great hitting, fielding or pitching coach but if your in the dugout during games it's usually a no win situation because no matter what you will always be accused of playing daddy ball. a parent needs to be in the stands and let the coaches for the school coach.
     
  3. Mar 31, 2008 at 10:18 AM #3
    cheeze105

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    DEPENDS

    On the situation. when my dd played hs, our varsity coach had never had a pitcher who could throw junk. he didnt know how or when to call a particular pitch. he asked me to call pitches and sat with me the whole time, listening to me explain why i would call for a particular pitch. we developed a great friendship, but daddy ball wasnt there, as my dd was the ONLY pitcher for her four years.

    I know what most of you mean, having witnessed this in travel ball. my advice is that the parent stay out of the dugout during a game and leave it to the coach, right or wrong. now if that parent becomes an asst coach, they need to be part of the staff, but not making the decessions that directly affect playing time of their daughter, for their daughters sake.

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  4. Mar 31, 2008 at 10:24 AM #4
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    I think the coaches that are hired to coach........... do the coaching. Leave the parents in the stands to do the cheering.
     
  5. Mar 31, 2008 at 10:26 AM #5
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    I help coach my DD's team. On game day, I have no involvement in lineups, etc. I keep the scorebook and sit outside of the dugout on my bucket for the whole game. I never go in the dugout and do get involved in any meetings/discussions with the coaches/players/umps. I remain as hands off as I can.
     
  6. Mar 31, 2008 at 10:32 AM #6
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    Agree completely.....
    That's one deal I made with my daughter a long time ago.
    I have never coached my daughter, and feel like, in our situation, she is a better all-around player because of it.
    It's bad enough the evil looks I get from on the sidelines. I'd hate to imagine how it would be if I were in the dugout. LOL !!
    I'll leave it to the ones that get paid for it.
     
  7. Mar 31, 2008 at 10:40 AM #7
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    This really depends on the parent. Some can handle coaching their daughters and some cannot. Each situation is different in my opinion.
     
  8. Mar 31, 2008 at 11:05 AM #8
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    I AGREE and thats why I have tryed to stay out of the way at our school. I want my daughter to make it on her own, without ANYBODY being able to say anything about her dad being involved. That being said...I would be SO NICE to see a "coach" and administration, actually take the job seriously as I or anybody who has invested time in their kids would. To at least STRIVE to have a program kids want to play in and people support. But as I've said......Heck our team..On the bottom of the NPC got hammered LAST WEEK. And DID NOT practice ANY during spring break. Game tomorrow, rain today, boy I believe I could pitch against them and get them out. Some I'm sure haven't swung a bat in a week and a half. ............But thats what I'm talking about......So much time goes into hiring certain coaches for certain sports and then some sports are neglected. .....Softball seems to be on the list, of "lets just get a caretaker" at our school. And THATS WRONG. I hate to see any program whether my kids play in it or not be neglected. ........So I guess my point is if hiring qualified teachers /coaches are a problem ......Let parents help if the coach is in over his or her head and wants help. , but the problem is most don't realize that they are in over their head, and from what I've seen DON"T CARE. Just pay me when the schedule is thru.
     
  9. Mar 31, 2008 at 11:12 AM #9
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    My Only Comment / Remember There Are 2 Sides !!!

    Believe it or not I'm a parent now....When I quit coaching my daughter approximate 2 years ago, and became a parent, she responded better defensively and offensively as a ball player....BE CAREFUL, if a parent can assist the coach in a positive way,and Daddy Ball is not an issue,I don't see anything wrong with a dad helping out !! First of all "DEFINE" DADDY BALL !!! My definition may not be the same as yours...if a dad puts in a position a kid because of her relationship to the coach ( DAD ),and there is a stronger kid that should be playing that position, then it becomes DADDY BALL!! I'm not saying this is the only definition JMHO !!! You can ask my DD,I have sit her,and put another kid in her position over the years time to time, because she wasn't performing like she needed to be. I would NEVER sacrifice a win or team comradery, because she is my DD. My wife use to get so mad at me when I would do that,because some of the other coaches would not even allow that action to cross their mind. If you don't believe I did this to my DD,next time you see her on the ball field ASK HER !!!

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  10. Mar 31, 2008 at 11:21 AM #10
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    flashing signs from the dugout bucket

    I recall a parent from a very successful HS team that sat in the dugout area on a bucket to call pitches for his dd.
    That just looked bush league to me, but most folks had no problem with it.

    If I were a coach, I would prefer that all parents take their place in the spectator areas.
     
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