High School Criticism / Player Or Not !!!

Just recently had an encounter with some high school situations with a high school team where a kid was being told of bad judgement ,and the parent got involved in the matter. My suggestion to anyone unless the coach actually puts his or her hand on your child STAY OUT OF IT !! There are different coaching styles, and different personalities that everyone us encounter on a daily basis, who is to say that my way or your way is the correct way,but the results in the end. Most winning organizations not mentioning any names so that the Guru want get any hate mail will take the high end of training. More meaningful and even more militant training, these individuals will be more aggressive on the ball field,and will probably show more maturity on the ball field. In my opinion again my opinion these kids will be better candidates for college recruits because of the word DISCIPLINE. If you can't take a little criticism at this level then you are kidding yourself at the collegiate level that your kid will be successful. I promise one thing you can b%#$@ and complain and possible get away with it at the high school level in most situations,but in college those days are over. So next time something P#$% you off, just try and practice to listen and learn from it, because college is coming soon,and those days will soon be over when you can voice your opinion as a parent !!! Let your kid handle some of her own affairs so she can mature and become the young woman that she needs to be !!! Remember life is tough sometimes, this isn't fantasy land where everything and everybody is PERFECT, so sit back for the ride it will all be over and forgotten in about 10 years !!!


Guru

 

Amen and amen.....
Tough as it may be.

 

The situation described by Guru gives HS softball a bad reputation. You will rarely, if ever, see something like that in baseball. The respect for the game far outweighs a parent's perceived injustice. If you have a problem with a coach, discuss it the following day (after cooler heads prevail) vs during or after a game when emotions are still raw.

I'm going to say something that is straight-talk. When a college coach is scouting a player, they look for reasons to check someone off their list. If a player carries extra baggage due to a meddlesome parent, the player is marked off the list and they go on to the next recruit.

I hope everyone takes the time to read this link. It is about a conversation with a college recruiter about overzealous parents.

http://www.thisboardrocks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=146039

 

Thanks !!!

 

Thanks

Very powerful posts Braves and Guru!

 

Absolutely!

We tell our parents before the season to not approach us before, during or after a practice or a game (win or lose) and never in front of their DD. We are more than willing to speak with parents about their DD and what we want/expect from them but we will not do it in front of their DD (we tell their DD ourselves without the parents). They need to wait for us to give them time. I could not imagine a parent coming up to us after a loss! I guarantee they would get a lot more than they were looking for...

 

Great topic!

That really needs to be posted on ALL of the boards not just a link in a post so everyone can read it! Any thoughts on what these parents might do if someone printed those posts and gave it to them? I might know one or two folks that need to read that...

Like others have said, if your DD is that good, the right people will know who she is and come to see her. When they come, leave them alone!!!

 

At our school, parents are told to make an appointment through the AD (plenty of time to cool off) and that playing time is never a valid topic for a parent. Players are supposed to be having these conversations (not before, during or after games, though) so that they can learn from the coach what is needed from them to get the playing time or position they want.

 

Did You Know !!

Actually you are 100% correct, the coach does not have to answer to the parents at all, but the AD only...he is the boss !!! Take all your gripes to the AD, and if the AD decides to let you meet with the coach then at that time and that time only will it be permitted !!!




Guru

 

Agreed but...

What if the AD (or the coach for that matter) couldn't care less about the softball 'program'? What recourse does a player (or MAYBE a parent) have then? Don't say go to the principle, already tried that and didn't help either...

Also agree playing time is never up for debate but what about having a player on JV who is clearly better than most of the girls on Varsity (like in the top 3) but is held down just so the JV team can 'compete'?