Poor Sportsmanship during ASA States

Sad but true.......
The apple don't fall far from the tree......unless somebody is willing to pick it up and carry it.


Most negative behavior you see in kids has been modeled by their parents for years. EVERY kid has the potential to be a good, no a GREAT kid. They need guidance and a sense of direction.

 

If I ever...

...heard either of my DDs talking like that or even had someone tell me they said something like that, let's just say it would be on! Not only would they loose ALL of their creature comforts (iPod, computer, phone, etc.), they would be going to that girls house EVERY day appologizing and asking her if there is anything they can do for her.

Having said that, I have to believe this is the exception not the rule. We have met tons of GREAT girls and families through softball and while some of them have their moments, I can't think of one that would say something like that.

On the team that I help coach, we preach respect everyone but fear no one. You have to be competitive but we will not stand for anyone taunting or talking bad about anyone regardless of the situation. This includes stopping the cheering/chants when it is a blow out.

 

exactly, also its the parents who teach this away from the field, i have heard a number of mothers tell their kids to just run over her, also the coaches should come out to check on the injured player as well as the girl who caused the injury. im from the old school of sliding with sharpened cleats up, but if this was my daughter who hurt another player, spare the rod spoil the child, and she would have got the hickory switch, never to old to put in her place. as most of you know most kids and parents dont respect anyone, its a sad day. its just a game play hard and play to win but not at a win at all cost attitude........scott forgot to add you never know when the old baseball play will come into effect,,,, you hurt on of ours and we hurt 2 of yours!!!!!!!!

 

Our first baseman hears stuff from opposing dugouts. Sometimes it serves as an inspiration to her. This past weekend she heard an assistant coach that was sitting on his bucket next to the dugout saying to his team when we got ahead of them "Don't worry about it, let's just play with them a little bit before we pound them in the ground". As soon as the inning was over she told her teammates. Needless to say after winning that game our girls spent quite a bit of time horselaughing that fool.

 

That just makes my point!!!

That is EXACTLY the attitude, being learned or coddled by parents/coaches, that I was talking about in my post! You should be teaching your players, to let their playing between the white lines, do their horselaughing for them! Not encouraging them to sit around dwelling on something that another inappropriate adult said! 2 wrongs do not make a right!!

 

Exactly!

 

agree

i agree, I have always told my DD to let her game and not her mouth speak for her playing.

 

My 15 year old daughter listened to this grown man run his mouth during a ballgame. She said NOTHING to this fool. As a matter of fact she stood on first and did a lot of smiling. AFTER the game amongst friends they had a laugh because they DID let their playing do their talking as they ALWAYS have. Do I think that was wrong...No. Did I encourage it...No. Now had she gone up to idiot boy and said something, that would not be right, but she didn't. It was a private moment between 15 year old girls. I see nothing wrong with them getting a little satisfaction out of proving a jerk wrong. Frankly I don't know of any 15 year old that wouldn't get some satisfaction out of it. I'm 47 and I even got some satisfaction out of it because I hate that my kid had to stand over there and listen to that a$$hole. As for what I should or should not be teaching my daughter that is between me and her, but I will say this I always have and always will teach her not to let anyone run over her. Don't start anything but don't take anything. I guess my political correctness is not as pure as some like to claim theirs is but I don't apologize for it. I will close by saying that our team is one of the very few that I have seen that has NEVER (not even at 10U did we do it) cheered from the dugout other than encouraging their own teammates and instead of talking trash they have ALWAYS let their playing do their talking for them.

 

Sign of the times

Trash talking and bad attitude seems to be running wild in all sports.
I saw way too much bad behavior this weekend. Girls cursing back and forth at each other, refusing to high five or shake hands after the games. I guess society teaches that kind of behavior shows that you are competitive or tough.
I come from the old school where it just shows no discipline, sorry sportsmanship and sore losers. If you are a competitive person, TOUGH is being able to look your opponent in the eye and smile and tell them good game after you just lost a heartbreaker!

I am now off my soapbox

 

Not trying to be ugly, but you still don't get it. Matter of fact, I don't know if I could do it myself but the correct course of action is to focus more on their play than you do the "a$$hole". He might have been talking to his players to get them fired up or something; not even talking to your daughter maybe. Who knows?