What would you do?

Life is all about choices. Make the choice you think is best for your dd, your team, etc.

You'll know in a couple of years if you were right....or not.

 

Sorry my fishy pal, didn't want to give ya brain freeze....if my kids were not very good then i'm w/ the Gman on this one...private lessons, working out after practice and games, etc..etc...or....if that's not an option then maybe it's time to quit and play just travel ball...on a b level team or a rec team...little league and babe ruth is just full of girls playing like this...just looking to enjoy the experience w/o college aspirations or the pressure...there is a place and a level for everyone

 

B-I-N-G-O
I'll have to ride with Parkdaddy on this one !!!!!!

 

That pretty much says it. My DD is not looking for a hand out or thinks she deserves anything she has not worked for, but she does believe in playing up in talent (not down) and always working to get better. If there is a coach out there who thinks that just because a DD does not want to ride the bench and leaves a HS team to go and play TB where she could play UP and continue to get better, and wants to label her a quitter, or punisher her by not selecting her for a team, or inviting her back next year, etc., I guess she will have to live with that. But she will be thinking about all those labels people will put on her when she is beating you.

 

It Depends !!

Does she play for Cheeze?? Then she should leave---LOL !!!

Cheeze---Guru Loves ya baby !!

 

RE: WHAT WOULD YOU DO

i'll get fried for this. it depends on the situation. my situation is that we do not have a jv team and some of the players on my bench would start if we had a jv team. they will help me down the line, but i have to pick and choose my spots for them right now. i tell my players that you are always 1 play from becoming a starter. for some of these players, its tough b/c they have started their entire life. if they can play their time will come.

 

let' relook at the original question

The first question that comes to mind is "has this girl ever had to really work and earn playing time?"
Second question would be "if she truly loves her SB team how can she just walk away?"
Third question, "if she's learning a lot with the SB team, doesn't that have any value?"
Question four, "is it really her fear, or is it yours, that DD might be missing the boat because she's not starting on the school team?"

The school season has been going on for just a couple of weeks. If she has the ability and talent you believe she has, then she will show it and earn more playing time. Also, if she has that level of talent, there will be a travel team that will want her when the time comes.

The tone of your post gives the impression that the situation is dire and must be resolved immediately or DD's Softball career is over. Please take this advice from someone who has been down this road... RELAX a little! She's too young to have to deal with this pressure and you're probably too old for it to be doing you any good.

 

My 2 cents

I am not a coach - just a parent! However, my daughter will never quit a team!

One of my jobs as a parent is to prepare my daughter for the expectations of the season. It is my daughter's job to decide if she can live with those expectations, understanding that things change as a season develops.

Do people not understand that tryouts are a two way street. The coach and organization are deciding if they want my daughter and my family. My daughter (and family) is deciding if she wants that coach, those teammates and the organization.

If the coach makes a commitment - he/she sticks with it. If my daughter makes a commitment, she sticks with it. It no longer is about softball - it is about her word and her commitment. Maybe this is the biggest lesson she learns that particular season - and it may be more important than anything she learns on the field! At the end of the season, both parties should re-evaluate whether they want to continue in future seasons.

Someone has the title "Coach" and they are free to make whatever rules they want. As the parent and player, we have the ability to decide whether we can live with those rules.

A High School coach has the right to forbid travel ball. We have the right not to play high school ball.

A travel ball coach has the right to demand they play during the high school season. We have the right to find another travel team.

These issues should be decided prior to any commitment made to a team. If they are not dealt with ahead of time, I have failed to guide my daughter in the proper fashion.

If my high school coach stinks and my travel ball coach is awesome - I should have known that prior to committing to play high school ball. If my high school coach has rules - I should have committed to following those rules prior to committing to play. If I am going to spend the entire season sitting the bench - I should have accepted that within the dynamics of a team sport and been willing to do that prior to committing to play!

I don't understand why this is so hard. Find out the rules, expectations, qualifications and demeanor of coaches, etc... and make a decision to play or not play. If you are unhappy with your decision, do something different next season.

 

Finally a COMMON SENSE approach....Great post Swingaway

 

It is not an issue of commitment from my DD. It is about a HS coach feeling that he has the right to tell someone that they don't have an option to play TB while playing HS. Say what you want but the coach dose NOT have the right to do this. Is this something that is in writing somewhere. If this is the expetation of a coach then it should be explained to the athlete prior to being offered a spot on the team.