What would you do?

That's funny. Ask a girl to honor a committment to the team and you are on a power trip.

I have been coaching as an assistant or head for 15 years. None of the teams I have coached on has had any restrictions on playing or practicing / taking lessons on the weekend (which we don't practice on). We knew that we had an advantange when our girls practiced on Sunday with their travel team because we were better in Monday games. We did ask one girl not to play in a tournament the weekend before we played in the state championships in Raleigh for fear of losing her for states. That is the only time we ever asked anyone to forego their travel team.

I am well aware that the strength of our team generally is on the same curve as the number of travel ball players we have. I am also aware that every school has its athletes who could play any sport and outside of the pitching position can compete for playing time with the year round softball players. This is where some parents don't understand that natural athleticism sometimes trumps years of training.

After rereading the original post I know it is a tough decision but I think those who indicated that a better life lesson is learned by sticking by your team(teammates) are correct.

 

True

GURU's kids love him. Yes I said kids, he treats them all as his. GURU is 10 feet tall and bullet proof.

 

Very reasonable and smart way to handle things. The girl in question could still stick by her teammates (sitting on the bench) and be allowed to play tb on the weekends in order to get better and eventually help her high school team, but the high school coach needs to give a little on his end.

 

What about the committment to her TB team? Why sould they have to take a back seat to HS? Both sould be able to coexist without any problems.

 

This should have been worked out before she joined a second team. One commitment is easy to live up to - but when you add a second - it should be understood by both parties prior to committing to the second team. If it is not - you have cheated both teams.

The rules and expectations should be dealt with prior to committing to ANY team! Once committed to the first team, you should honor the rules and expectations of the first team (if you did not agree with them you should not have accepted a spot on the team). Prior to joining the second team, you reveiw the first team's expectations with the coach and if it is unacceptable - don't commit to the second team.

Simple - we priortize everything in our lives and this is no different.

 

Good!

I haven't read this whole tread (I will later). I am glad your daughter made that decision and this is why. I am not sure if this applies to your situation. We have many girls at our school try out that don't make our team. Our coach like most of us would agonizes over these cuts. In many cases some of these girls will never speak to him again. To him cutting a player he didn't have to cut and a player that did make the team quit during the season is a unforgivable action regardless of how good the player becomes. During our tryouts the girls are warned of this many times in advance. They are told "if you quit me during the season you will never play here again". I am sure someone could challenge that and get to try out but would be as far as it would go.

I would think however if you discussed this action with our coach before you made a decision to move he might agree and tell you it is for the best and we will see you next season.
Hopefully all goes well for your daughter in the future!

 

Maybe you should read the entire thread before making silly post like this.

 

Dude - this is too funny. See my post #48. Maybe you should read the entire thread before sarcastically criticizing another board member.

 

the great debate

Folks, when I started this thread I had no idea there was this great sensitivity between TB and SB coaches. Every coach out there has a stamp. Players too. Some coaches will work with other coaches and players, some will not. Some say they develop players and some do not. Some coaches are dedicated to the players they choose for a team and some are not. I know because we have experienced both the good and bad that softball can be. Everyone has a reason for doing what they think is right. You may not agree with it but you need to respect it and move on. In the end, you get out of it what you put into it. If it is meant to be it is meant to be. I've had some great supportive PM's. Despite what people may speculate we are in very good hands. We were just looking for a little input outside our normal circle of coaches and instructors, and boy did we get it. LOL! Now please, let's just move on. Good luck out there.

 

I Think The Problem Is----

Which comes first the chicken or the egg ?? Most of the developed athletes that play in high school have played 5-6 years of travel ball. Are all learning proper skills??--answer is NO...but the exposure of the game is also a part of learning just being on the field...you don't learn how to field a ball by reading a book, or hitting it takes exposure to the game. So it also takes exposure to learn the dos and don'ts about the game. Reading a drivers manual doesn't make you a good driver, you have to go out on the road and drive, you learn from your experiences !! The big issues that I see is that high school coaches are taking credit for what travel ball coaches have taught their kids in the formative years.. Yes bad habits or good habits are taught at 8-10 years old then it can follow a kid for the rest of her life until somebody gets a hold of her and fixes it. Which to be fair there are great high school programs that have helped fix some kids bad habits, but if you look at the high school girls that are successful going to the next level they started in TB first you can't deny it !!

Guru