Define “Verbally committed….”

Thanks very helpful input!

 

Where is the "Guru" when you need him?

I am going to climb the mountain in search of Gurus wisdom...
As someone who has just navigated these rocky waters and sailed safely through them his advice is needed in this situation.
What would Guru say?

 

I was asked to share this. Since most in the softball community don't know me, here is my experience. Ex-college player, ex-college coach, ex- ML scout, current father of scholarship player, current family advisor about the recruiting process and have a relationship with most D1 and D2 coaches in NC and SC. I know a little bit about how the recruiting process works. I admit that softball is not my specialty but there are far more similarities than differences between the two sports as far as the recruiting process is concerned.

I will offer my opinion in hope that it may help someone, but as far as what weight one gives it is up to the person reading it. I created this forum for that purpose. There are many knowledgeable people that read this site and are very helpful to our members. That's what this forum is for: To share information, not to try to stir the pot.

 

.......Braves, you're the man in my book brother!
I respect your opinion and if others have a ? of the validity of your posts, then ...well, you can't fix stupid.
Props brother, and thanks for an awesome TBR.

UncleFish

 

Now THAT is funny

 

agree

Would be interesting what he has to say???? might go something like this.... Know your DD level D1, 2 or 3 and be REALISTIC. Then start the shopping cart. Have her stay in touch with the 3 or 4 that show the most interest, keep in constant contact. See what happens. This should start in the 10th grade so by the 12th grade there is nothing but the paper work to sign. This is what I think GURU would say.

Right now my DD is 12 and I know who she wants to play for in college. But will she make it to that level? I don't know. By the time she is a senior in HS she may want to be in another sport or not play at all. So like GURU, you keep them focused on the task at hand and if the coach come knocking when they are Soph or Jr in HS looking for the verbal or paper in hand "count it all JOY"

There is a local young lady that has already made a verbal to a D1 as a soph, no paper can be signed because of NCAA rules and it is only verbal. What would happen if she said no "I" want to stay in state. I would not think any less of her now, if that would be her desire.

Does anyone remember basketball player Tom McMillian. He made a verbal to UNC be signed with Maryland. I did not like it, but it was his decision.

 

Verbal commitments in football and basketball is a different animal. No one respects them until the ink is dried on the NLI. The coaches in those sports and the university have millions of dollars at risk in the success they have in recruiting.

The spring sports in college is a better perspective of what college sports used to be. The coaches aren't making millions and the schools' athletic program is not surviving on their revenues. They tend to be more principled in their actions and expect their athletes to be the same. If they offer an athletic scholarship and its verbally agreed upon, it will remain the same when signing an NLI, regardless what class the athlete is in.

 

admit it though

Yes, I will agree above and love the integrity of the hand shake. But, you still have to admit it. I don't think there is a grey area here. A kid says no after saying yes 6 mo or 1 yr before and wants to go somewhere else and has not signed on the dotted line. They are free to do as they please and not be black balled about it, the coach has no choice. Yes a hand shake is old school, but this is 2010 and the NLI is the legal doc and will lock the player in. Sometime emotions get ahead of logic in a 16 or 17 yr old kid. Even if it is SB or Football or Corn-hole pitching. Make sure you have it in writing both parties....

 

My DD is a Jr and just verbally committed to a college.The way I was raised,your word is your bond,period.I have raised her the same way,so we made sure this is what she wanted because there is no backing out.