Daddy Ball Killing High School Team

We have a new coaching staff at our high school and so happen one of the coaches is the daddy of one of the girls playing. All the girls and parents see what is happening with him trying to make her the star of the team. Around 90% of the girls said they would not play anymore for the high school if they still had the same coaches next year. The parents are also getting feed up with this and said they would not support the coaches in anything they need done.

 

OK......This has been touched on a few times on TBR....

1st.... New Head Coach. Is the new HC a member of school staff? Why? Because the girls will see the HC daily at school. There should be that positive relationship there w the girls and coach and he makes the rules and there should be no questions....

2nd... The HC needed help. Found a parent/friend that likely knows fast pitch SB and D plays on the team.

3rd... is the team currently playing good ball and competing on the field.

Now... These 3 things being said AND if what you are saying is true. I've seen things like this on this board played out and others in your area will learn who you are and what team you are talking about. You have the right to voice your concerns on here. If the HC or asst coach reads this board and knows who your are. It could end or escalate quickly. Normally, it escalates and gets worse. Just don't let it play out on here.

So if you want to handle it quietly and what is being said is true and not some she said, she said, on twitter or facebook or just talk behind the back. Those 90% girls and parents need to meet corporately/privately w HC and address the question situation and you had better be UNITED 100%. If a observation is needed and the asst coach is a good coach. Ask the HC if the asst can coach the JV if the DD is on the Varsity or Vise-verse or put the Asst Coach in the batting cage area while the DD is on the IF/OF and switch them, to where they never converse away from the HC present. Even ask if another parent can watch practice as a representative of the 90% and cant say or do anything. The HC is in charge and can fix things quickly. If the HC is open to parents concerns. No one wants 90% of a team to walk off or not come back. That would be the absolute last thing to do..... Yes parents do control some of what goes on, on the team. The AD will then be looking for a new HC, as hard as good coaching is to find......

JMO

 

Glad I had boys, Way too much drama here. Piedmont, I have never heard of have a team parent meeting of the such you are talking about, things like this really happens in HS Softball?

If FP's daughter was playing he/she would not be complaining. Two ways to handle this is a one on one parent meeting with head coach at the school office or most respect from coach would be player discussing it with coach and leaving Daddy out of it.

 

I think you hit the nail on the head.

If the rules were changed to allow 11 positions but no more than 10 players there would be a lot less drama.

 

I have played softball since I was 8 years old and have never seen someone try to put their daughter in front of everyone that plays on this team. The HC has never coached at this level and just let's the other coach do this. This is hurting to future of this program. The HC is a person that if you talk about a problem nothing will be done and your time on the team will get harder.

 

Like I said above. Tools and softballphreak... I think you would agree as stated handle it in private. Cause you don't want 90% to walk away. If what FP says is true. Having a parent at practice to report on what is happening. you need a witness, not just 1 person on a TBR board saying something. You want evidence so you dont look totally foolish when you need to address something.... no one wants 90% to walk away. It may come to that point. To get the point across.

Tools you maybe right, FP daughter maybe the only one not getting PT. That would be a hold differnt thing. But according to the orginal post its effecting the whole team.

Tools and softballphreak.... y'all have been on here a long time. You know that things get played out on here a lot. You know that FP is new here according to the new post.... So i'm just saying to them to make sure they have ALL the info they can get to move this in a hopefully positive way. Yes even if it means a full parent meeting. Strenght in numbers. 90% at a meeting or walking away gets the AD and Principle's attention real quick. I would hate to be on the receiving end of that kind of meeting..... JMO

 

I'm more inclined to advise in this situation to leave the team alone. If it's an issue with your own DD, then, fine, explore it.

I like the rule some schools have that don't allow parents to coach their own DD. Whether a head coach or an assistant. Even then, though, there will be those that believe that fair and equal treatment mean the same thing. They don't.

 

I am one of the players on this team. Just trying to get an opinion from someone on what can be done. The actions from the HC and AC have some of the girls wanting to never play softball again. This is coming from girls that have played softball for the last 5 or 6 years.

 

I didn't realize you were one of the players. What I suggest is that you and any of the other players that want to, ask the coach for a chance to discuss the situation. Be ready to discuss it by knowing that it might not change anything. Be honest, be considerate, no ultimatums. Keep in mind that the coach's DD is not just his DD, she's your teammate. She might already feel uncomfortable with the way things are.

The situation needs to be resolved so that you and your team can get about the business of having fun and making good memories. This is a great opportunity to learn.

Good luck.

 

Same here,didn't realize you were a player. Softballphreak says it very well. Follow that advice.