How would you handle this?

No, no no...you guys misunderstood. The Coach told me this about a player they were recruiting years ago (this was a college summer game)---It's what prompted my question

The other part was a hypothetical situation. I wanted some feedback from our members how you would handle it.

This DID NOT happen to me!!!!!

and I agree 100% that's what this board is for. That's why I posed this question.

 

Life's lessons

I think we all see things that we wonder should we get involved or not..
If we see a player or hear about an incident that a player might have been involved in as concerned mentors (friends) i believe direct contact with the Player is in order..
It actually is something that the players need to address. These are mostly 16 to18 year old young men. we all know them and few are willing to instruct or coach these young men off the field. We are willing to guide them in the subtle nuances of baseball but turn a blind eye in how these same young men need to conduct themselves off the field.. Once they chose to enter the fish bowl they have to live with the scrutiny that comes with it..
Some can't deal with it and therefore are not given the opportunity to play at the next level ..

If you care about the player say something to him if it is not too late... If it is too late be a friend and Listen to the parents and keep the friendship...

 

At this time I would cosider you an aquaintace. We have watched a game and a showcase camp together. I have read your posts on TBR and am aware of your baseball knowledge as well as your friends/contacts in the college coaching ranks. That being said, I would value any input you had on my son's ability as well as recruitability. I gained some insight into the schools my son is interested in during our conversation at Winthrop. In this case I would at least monitor my son's actions ad mention to him what I had heard. He is at the age I could not demand action, only hope he had fortitude to make the correct decision.

 

My take

I take this from a great friend and a great coach. Old Angel Coach would always tell the boys. Always show your best on and off the field. You never know who is looking and where it maybe. Coaches are looking for players that they do not have to worry about off the field. I have seen him set a kid for those same actions you refered to throwing a helmet, ect... I have also seen him approach parents (friends) and be up front and truthful with them. Be that friend. A friend is there to help not standby and wait till help is to late. Look at it this way. If your kid was doing the wrong things would you like to be told?

 

Nip It In The Bud!



Helmet throwing, cussing, trashing the dugout, slinging bats, & not hustling are things that need to be addressed by coaches. (starting with tee-ball) If players are still doing this in high school & American Legion, etc. someone didn't do their job along the way. Parents certainly should have addressed this! This kind of behavior needs to be addressed whenever it happens.

 

Funny

How it has been brought up in the past that it was somewhat acceptable for this if a kid is doing it out of passion. I would agree. There is no place for it on the field at any level.

 

Although the situation I described was hypothetical, it came from a question I was asked by a member of a real situation.. Although it's easy for us to say, "it never should happen...." it does!...and obviously the parents don't understand that it is a problem.

I know others have seen this same example because I received PM's and is being discussed in the chat room with varying degrees of similar instances.

I was just wanting a discussion on what "you" would do in the same situation. I know the answers given here will help some people. All of them have been good one's.

 

Hanging Around A "Bad Apple"

Like it or not, this will kill a player's baseball career faster than you can say "The Osmonds". If you hang out with "One Bad Apple", people will automatically assume that you participate in "bad apple's" activities. It's human nature. If you want to be seriously recruited, you need to rid yourself of bad influences.

 

yes....that is exactly what happened

 

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