1. This Board Rocks has been split into two separate forums.

    The Preps Forum section was moved here to stand on its own. All member accounts are the same here as they were at ThisBoardRocks.

    The rest of ThisBoardRocks is located at: CarolinaPanthersForum.com

    Welcome to the new Preps Forum!

    Dismiss Notice

to much?

Discussion in 'Softball Forum' started by PiedmontSB#6, Mar 9, 2012.

  1. Mar 9, 2012 at 11:33 AM #1
    PiedmontSB#6

    PiedmontSB#6 Senior Member

    Posts:
    132
    Likes Received:
    0
    Joined:
    Mar 8, 2012
    I'm newbie here
    Question?
    How much softball is to much softball? Daughter is now playing middle school and travel. School practice and travel practice almost everyday and on Sat. Soon starting travel season, school already in progress. How much, is to much? Don't want to hit the BURN OUT by the time they are 14 or 15 or later. When she may have a chance to go to the next level. Have seen some others get the BURN OUT or quit by 17 or 18 and could have been a good college player. Any thoughts? I'll leave it with you.
     
  2. Mar 9, 2012 at 2:29 PM #2
    cheeze105

    cheeze105 Moderator Staff Member

    Age:
    70
    Posts:
    3,960
    Likes Received:
    3
    Joined:
    Oct 12, 2003
    Location:
    gastonia, nc
    my dd (dear daughter) started when she was 10.....quit when she was 18 and chose not to play in college. Our family is just like the other 75% who's kids just wanted to play with their friends.

    Need to look at a couple of things.....is she having fun right now???? cause when the fun comes to a halt, its burnout time.

    Is she playing for herself or playing for you????? Playing for dear ole dad eventually leads to burnout in the end.

    as far as how much is too much, that my friend, is up to her.....it goes along with the having fun thing.

    15/16 is where the divide begins. with the addition of a drivers license and those darn boys, for some, its over very, very fast.

    good luck and welcome to this board rocks softball forum
     
  3. Mar 10, 2012 at 8:42 AM #3
    Simba

    Simba Junior Member

    Posts:
    8
    Likes Received:
    0
    Joined:
    Jun 30, 2010
    you are absolutely correct about drivers liscenses and boys...the best advice I can give you is not to get into softball arguments...what I mean is if she has a bad day dont worry about it...dont always talk about softball or what she needs to do to improve...if her team isn't playing that weekend dont make her pick up with someone else...as she gets older do less coaching and just encourage her...things like that
     
  4. Mar 10, 2012 at 4:31 PM #4
    kanwj

    kanwj Full Access Member

    Posts:
    191
    Likes Received:
    0
    Joined:
    Jan 10, 2007
    Keep it fun!!! If she wants to take a break, and she is going to do something positive let her.:Lurking:
     
  5. Mar 12, 2012 at 2:38 PM #5
    currylib

    currylib Junior Member

    Posts:
    23
    Likes Received:
    0
    Joined:
    Jun 1, 2008
    All of the above is great advice. With my daughter, we always let it be her choice- do you want to show up to the tournament on Saturday instead of Friday so that you can attend the party . . .that type of thing. More often than not, she chose ball, but sometimes not. There have been many times when she complains about ball but if I give the option of cancelling a lesson, she always says No. And certain times we demanded downtime and time off from lessons, practice and play. Playing ball all year round is no fun for anyone. You get tired of the fields eventually. We're not out of the woods yet, she's only 17, but she seems to get the balance thing and is heading on to play college ball when she graduates (if she doesn't burn out by then!). I will say that the kids I've seen that were talented but quit over the years almost invariably had parents who demanded they play, be it the amount they played, the position they played, the amount they practiced. And the parents were always ready to criticize. By the time they're teenagers, they know if they played poorly. They know they shouldn't have swung. They're competitive athletes. They don't need mom and dad reminding them of their mistakes. Like the other poster said, it has to be fun. When it's a obligation and always negative, they're done.
     
  6. Mar 12, 2012 at 8:14 PM #6
    techie

    techie Junior Member

    Posts:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Joined:
    Feb 20, 2012
    I pushed hard with my older daughter and she ended up leaving the game. I learned from my mistake and tried to allow my younger one to find a balance and it seems to be working out much better. I feel like she has also learned about commitment, priorities, and responsibility to others by letting her find her own balance.
     

Share This Page