conversation about getting to college

Exact quote from a D1 college coach-
" I have a senior now who's father has too much input on her pitching, why would i want another one"

And another- " She's a talented kid, but how will she fare when pops isn't there to take care of her"

Too much reaction one way or the other when they get out from dad (or mom- there are mom coaches too). Either can't take the critique because dad has been protective of them all there life, OR go hog wild because they have some freedom from a controlling father. As a father and a kind of coach, be a coach when you need to otherwise be a REAL dad.

 

The last day of both my DDs middle school ball was the last day I coached them. I still help with some of their teams but do have any direct interaction with my own DDs.

I would like to say that I was all knowing and knew college coaches wanted to see how they respond to other coaches but the fact was I couldn't take it anymore! I could tell my DDs something 10 times and they wouldn't listen but if another coach told them the same thing once, BANG, they start doing it. It was either stop coaching them or lose all of my hair and my sanity!

Anyway, completely agree with you here cheeze. There comes a point when they have to take over and start doing things for themselves. They should always be able to go to their parents for advice but they have to be the ones doing the talking and making the decisions based on what THEY want not what their parents want. This also has to start early on. You cannot wait until they are Juniors or Seniors.

Let me also add that there is nothing better than coaching a team that your DD is not on!