Dad Coaches ?

How about some good feedback from the vetran long time coaches out there.
At what point/age is it best to give up coaching your own daughter. I have heard that it can be a drawback in the eyes of some college coaches and
hender the opportunities to get to the next level. I know there are plenty of examples that come down on either side of the fence. Please share your past
exp. with us less traveled.

 

That is one thing I fear is in my future. I coached my sons flag football team and it took him a while to figure out that difference between the Dad-role and the Caoch-role. Once he figured out I was there for the team and not just him, he fell in line.
Heck, he's only 6, but I had to remove him from practice a few times for acting up. The other kids saw that I was willing to yank my own kid and they fell in line...according to one of the parents.
Planning on getting my certification and catching on as an asst at a local HS or Jr. High. It is something I have wanted to do for a long time.
I coached my little sisters spring and fall ASA softball leagues with a couple parents...sometimes the best thing to do is to walk away.

 

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The hardest part is knowing when to let go.What actually works for one kid doesn't work for another.Having Coached both my daughters ,with the older one when fast pitch first started here in the schools was easier because we were learning together,but as the level of the game increased I realized I couldn't give her the coaching she needed to get to the next level,and she went to a travel team where the coach had no kid on the team and she realized her dream of playing very sucessfully at college. I think her playing with a team with the only parent involvement is warm-ups was a major factor in this.With the next one at 13 I knew which way to go and she went to the same team and now she has realized her dream of also playing at the next level.This is for the team concept .
We worked at home and in the batting cages and we continue to work together to improve their skills on a individual basis,both the mental and physical aspects of the game,But when game time comes I'm in the stands and become their biggest Fan.This is my observation continue, to work with them individually but leave the Coaching up to someone with no ties.The most sucessful 18U travel teams don't have Dad coaches .

 

Might help...?

http://www.youthcoachinginfo.com/

 

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My daughter recently signed to play at the college level. I coached the team she played on from the time she was 10 years old until she was 16 years old.

I did not coach my daughter's weekend team this past summer. However, this was because our weekend team was dissolved because we did not have enough players with the same goals, not because I feared what college coaches might think about my daughter.

As I went through the recruiting process with my daughter, I found that in a lot of cases, college coaches would find out about a prospect's parents whether they were coaches or not.

I personally feel that a dad being a coach will not hurt or help your daughter. I believe the most important thing for your daughter is being seen by college coaches and getting her name on the desk of as many coaches as possible. As it has been discussed so many times on this board, there are many ways to get that accomplished.

 

I totally agree. A lot of times Dad's get into coaching because there are no other options available to their daughter. They may initially do it because of their daughter but as they evolve (and the good ones do) then they are there for all the players. This is not always the case but then I have seen some coaches who have no family members on the team and they are lacking at best. Remember, coaches got their start somewhere and usually it started with a son or daughter.

 

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I agree with the fact that that's how alot get started , my thought is more along when do you let her go to keep from holding her back? 16U ? 18? etc..

 

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Thanks,
that is kind of what I was thinking, It sounds alot better hearing from someone else. As a soph she has made it as far as I can take her . I don't want to push too hard. Time for someone else to take over..

 

I think exposing our daughters to different coaching styles and coaching abilities is the way to go. Unfortunately for me there was no choice but to continue to coach all the way through even into her college days. There were no other teams/coaches in this area that were playing the schedules that my daughter needed to be playing in. I should have had my team into tougher tournaments sooner than I did. It was a learning experience for me. I did not have TBR to help me with a lot of these questions during this process. If you have the coaching available to you and your daughter that meets the goals and objectives that your daughter has established for herself then get on that team. If you feel that the teams in your area either have no openings or play an easier tournament schedule then you may have to stay involved longer than you had thought. This is what happens sometimes and it does not hurt your daughter. But, we are not living in an ideal world and you can't sit around waiting for it to get there. I understand your concern about when to stay involved and when to step aside. If you can step aside then do so if not then know you are doing all you can either way to help her accomplish her dream. I know some will get on here and say well is it her dream or the dad's. Thats not always easy to determine. You have to listen to your daughter when she may say this is not for me any longer and let her lay her glove down. To sum it up, just because you are a dad does not mean you are holding her back or hurting her as a player. Just not helping her reach HER Goals (not ours) is the only crime.