Head Softball Coaches

As a parent, I'd like to know, are there any head coaches that don't think they are GODor at least his right hand person? Are there really one's that really do try to be fair? Or do POLITICS play a major part with all of them? Maybe it has been just our experiences! Or maybe the POLITICS system has went on so long they feel this ia FAIR! What do you all think! Sound off on this one!! I will be very interested to see what responses I get!:banginghe

 

Could you explain this a little more? Id like to help answer but I am not sure what you are asking.

 

Coach

As Dawgfan says not quite sure what U are after but I will share what I believe to be traits of a good coach:

CHARACTER and not a "character"
Gentleman or Lady
Student of the Game, always learning!
Treats players, umpires, and fellow coaches with respect
Great teacher of the game and life in general
Always positive even when being critical
Honest even when it hurts, parents and kids need to know where they stand
Supports his team and protects his players
I believe most coaches want to do what is right and I also believe they play the players they feel give them the best chance to win. If coaches do not win, they do not last long. Sometimes what we as parents feel is obvious, the coach does not see! Since I am both, I truly understand that problem, Ha Ha! Look for a coach with "Character" and your daughter will be just fine.

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Cheeze105, thanks for your input I'm glad to hear that there are coaches out there that follow that type fairness and respect of players. Sounds like your daughter is at the right school.

 

Dawgfan, What I mean is that it seems that whatever parent gives the most money to the school/tournament team their kid always gets to play where they want regardless of their talent. Coaches seem to think that it is OK to say things such as " I play the best players" but do they think that the kids on the bench don't have feelings? If the kids are good enough to make the team they should get play time, that doesn't seem to be the normal. I know that there are GREAT coaches out there but I truly think that they are few and far between. I just wish more were in it for the girls not their ego's or to get them what they want. It seems to be a big problem, that is all I'm saying!
Thanks for asking.

 

LBlues 1, You are so RIGHT that is the kind of coach that every kid should play for. But those coaches are so few and so far that it seems impossible to find them. I AGREE 100% with what you said! Character is a big trait to look for. I know that they are out there. It just seems that they are the minority! Which is sad for all the girls who end up giving up softball because they were so badly treated by a coach that they gave up on themselves. Thank you very much for your response to my thread!

 

Coaches

I have seen many coaches at the college level also that are yellers and negative communicators, most are young and are trying to be in control. Admitting they are wrong is a sign of weakness in their eyes. Many times U just have to be your self, admit U do not know it all, stay positive, and support your assistants and team. There is so much pressure to win, we all lose focus on the ways to win consistantly. Parents can help their kids deal with tough situations by being supportive but realistic. In all walks of life, we have difficult people, work, school, ballfields, and in everything we do. If we prepare for those situations, we will be fine. Good luck to U! U seemed to be doing all U can to educate your daughter and your family on all factions of the sports world.

 

Softballforever1987

Don't understand what you are saying when you say treated unfairly. Is this a not getting to play thing?? Or is it a critizing, yelling coach, that belittles the girls?? In travel ball I think you do play your entire team. Maybe not every game but you play enough games during a weekend to keep everyone happy and still keep your "most" talent on the field the majority of the time. In most cases every girl has paid or participated in fundraisers and the coach hand picked them so they should play. Its just to make them better or to give the more talented ones exposer right?? Now in highschool/middle school I believe you do play the best. You work at practice to make them all better, give them opportunity to show their talent. But come game time the best ones hit the field. I believe that everyone should know that upfront too. I believe someone said communication with the parents. You earn you opportuntiy to play at practice. The kids should know that "the best" will play. They are 15-18 yrs. old. They know when someone is better than them. There is a thing called a role player. Its your job to push the kid in front of you. I kept you to run bases, or to be my pinch hitter. Its got nothing to do with hurting feelings. Its the way the team is run, its part of what is expected. Your there to win not run a rec. ball team. And I'm a firm believer that kids learn more about life through athletics than they do any Civics or Biology class. If kids (or in most cases their parents) are not satisified just being part of something don't play. They don't have to be there. Attacking a coach because certain someones don't get to play is wrong. They are there to do a job. They give their time (and don't even think yeah and their gettin paid) to improve kids as young adults and also they try to win a few games. They are not there to please everybody. They have to do what they think is right. Now I do realize there are some poor coaches out there. They can make a kid feel 2 in. tall. I hope thats what this is about and not a dissatisfied parent because of playing time. Sorry to ramble on but I get so tired of hearing coaches get attacked. And most of the time its because a child ain't playing. Sooo "Lets get the coach" its his fault.:banginghe

 

WOW!

That might be the best reply HIGHCHEEZE4 I have ever heard!